Is it a mid-life crisis?

Good day. Please forgive me as take a moment to reflect on this week. I will certainly be finishing up When we want to forget Part 3 soon.


We’ve seen it in movies. We’ve seen it on sitcoms. We’ve seen the man who looks like he’s 60 driving a Trans Am down the highway with his rag top down. They call it a midlife crisis, and that term is heard with a laugh behind it.

Honestly, why do they call it a midlife crisis? I’m not sure that those words are the right words for what we see in other people during a time of transition. That’s what this is – a time of transition.

So when you’re young, you get married, you have kids, you get busy with work, school, and everything else in between. The next thing you know you have children who are graduating from high school, and you’re not sure that the car that you have is going to take you into the new phase of life. You go through a time when you think you need to downsize, because you think you have too much stuff. You think you have too much stuff, because you think that you’re entering another phase.

That person that you see in movies for whom they have been referred to as going through a mid-life crisis, is really someone who has just entered another phase of life. When you’re so used to something and you’re in the habit of doing the same thing over and over for many years and then all of a sudden it stops, you find yourself wondering what’s next. So you end up going back to what you like. What you may have liked before the husband and the kids may have been that Trans Am or that old Mustang. It is what you used to like.

Something I’m learning is that moving into another phase is a transition that may last for quite a few years. Even though we are seeing our kids grow up and move out of the house, we’re still in a state of transition not fully understanding what to do with the rest of our life. It’s like we’re teenagers all over again wondering who we want to be when we grow up.

It is very interesting to me. I have realized that in the last few years I have been experiencing a state of transition trying to find out what I want to do when I grow up. There’s no doubt that I wanted to be an author. It is something I have wanted most of my life, but I am only now seeing it come true. But that is only one part of my life. What about being a wife? What about being a mother? How does all of this look in this transition and the transition to follow?

At this point in my life, not only do I have adult children, I also have a toddler. That is enough to throw anyone into a state of confusion. Do I downsize to the car, or do I find something in the middle that will last for the next 10 years? Can I live with myself if I keep the large SUV and make those huge payments? Where can I find that middle ground that will serve its purpose for the next 10 years in some of these decisions? What makes sense? What is the wise choice, especially since I really need a newer car?

There are a lot of questions that I want to get answered, and I know that God is the only one that can answer those for me. What I need to hang on to is the exact same thing when we were transitioning by making the move to Canada. Just trust God. It is what rings in my mind this morning as I realized I am yet another year older. Where did the last year go? It seems as if this year was only 2 months long!

It’s too easy to ask those questions. Did I make the best of my year? Did I make all the right decisions? How far did I come in my walk with God? It is something that most of us have the need reflect on each and every day no matter where we are in life. God gives us the ability to come to him and ask him what he wants us to do with our life so that we could honor him. He also gives us time to absorb where we are so that we can be level-headed while moving forward. And whatever it is, I am sure that God has got it covered.

I love that I can always go to God about everything that is deep within my heart and my soul. I can tell him what’s on my mind, and he is never offended. He just loves me. I love the fact that I can talk to him about what troubles me and even what doesn’t trouble me. He is my heavenly father, and he’s always loved on me no matter what.

One of the lessons that I learned while writing my book was that when things get tough, and I am unsure of myself, I can just recall where God called me. God made it very evident to me, in years past, that writing a book was what he wanted me to do. Not only did I have the desire and passion to do it, but it was also in the will of God for me to do so. But many times I wasn’t confident that I could complete it. I would ask myself, “Why would anyone want to read about me?” The lesson that I learned was that I just needed to remember what God called me to, and to just recommit to it. I just told God, “I recommit myself to writing this book.”

So at this point in my life when I’m seeing a lot of transition taking place, I am taking out time to recommit my life to the Lord and his plan for me. Yes, I do this just as if I was 26 years old again, the year that I first dedicated my life to God. There is always a time to recommit to God and the plans he has for us. It should be a regular thing. But remember this, the will of God includes your passions and dreams. God knows your heart for such things, because he is the one that planted them there. God is so good!

So, today consider saying the following prayer. It’s my prayer for my own life as I celebrate another year on this earth and the blessing to have God walk me through it.

Lord, I trust you with my life and with everything you’ve blessed me with. I place it in your hands, because I know that your hands are capable of what these hands are not. Lord it is through you that I can accomplish the unimaginable. Lord, I love that you don’t push me, you just talk to me and lead me. You have a will for my life, but it’s up to me to follow it. I love that you love me no matter what I do. Thank you God for the years you’ve already given me, and I thank you ahead of time for the many years you have planned ahead of me.

Go forth and be blessed, my friend.


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